Helping Others Deal with Grief

By the Dwell Grief Ministry Staff

Probably the most asked questions the Dwell Grief Ministry receives from people who want to help a hurting friend are: “What can I do?,” “What can I say?,” and “What book can I give someone?”

If you are looking for answers to these questions (and many more), the Dwell Grief Ministry is offering a 4-week class starting May 31st called “Helping Others Navigate Grief, Loss & Disappointment.”

This is a super-practical class to help educate and equip a person to minister to a hurting world. Each home group should consider having at least one person take this class.

What will be covered in the class?

When we have a friend who is hurting from a loss or disappointing situation, we want to do something to help. Yet, too often, we shy away or remain silent out of fear of saying or doing the wrong thing. In many cases that exacerbates our friend’s grief because they feel isolated or become angry that “nobody cares.”

This class will go in depth into multiple aspects of how to minister to those who are confused and/or waylaid by one of life’s many losses. Topics include:

  • How to ask appropriate questions, 
  • How to develop better listening skills, 
  • How to talk with non-Christians about grief, 
  • How to disciple someone in grief, and 
  • How to help children and teenagers. 

Note: This course is designed to help an individual learn to support a grieving person, not find support for themselves. 

Why is it important to take the class even if you don’t know someone who is in grief currently?

Grief and loss are part of the fallen world we live in. Grief can result from death, divorce, past trauma, unemployment, loss of friendship, changing home groups, etc. So most people know someone in grief. Scripture tells us to “encourage the fainthearted, help the weak, [and] be patient with everyone,” (1 Thess 5:14), and to “carry each other's burdens” (Galatians 6:2). Understanding how people react to a loss and the roles friends play in recovery is critical to serving others.

The apostle Paul had many things to grieve during his lifetime. Yet, he tells us that we should not grieve as people who have no hope (1 Thessalonians 4:13). He doesn’t say that we are not to grieve but we are to grieve differently. James 1:2 says that we should consider it joy when we encounter trials and tribulations.

Understanding how to grieve with hope and joy is a major part of helping someone else grieve. In order to help another person through grief, it is important to have a clear understanding of what grief is.

What's the format of the class?

The class format is a combination of lecture, short video clips, and discussion. Each week, there will be an interview with someone about their grief experience. Those interviewed have experienced grief from multiple causes. Additionally, each class member will receive a copy of Nancy Guthrie’s book What Grieving People Wish You Knew (a $12.95 value) along with a notebook of over 40 grief-related articles. 

You can register at https://member.dwellcc.org/classes or email grief@dwellcc.org for more details.