Xenos Counselors' Recap Favorite Parenting Advice


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We asked Xenos’ Biblical Counselors what was the best parenting advice they have ever heard. Perhaps some of these ideas will intrigue you or spark a conversation in your family.

Chris Risley advocates for getting a regular date with each of your kids. “When they’re little, you may be going to McDonald’s so they can get chicken nuggets, but it’s worth it. Occasionally, they’ll give you a golden insight into what they’re thinking about.”  She also remembers the advice, “Turn off the TV.”

Counselor Lee Campbell can relate to parents who ask questions of their teens and can’t get anything out of them. He got advice from a guy who spent a lot of time with middle school kids and observed that they all talk at the same time. Lee’s friend suggested, “Tell your kid a quick story about your day, something you’re struggling with, a weird thing that recently happened or a dream you had. Whatever you say, make it quick. Then shut up when they start talking and offer NO advice.”

Connie Rue shares advice that she got from counselor Bev DeLashmutt, “Never compare your child’s private behavior with another child’s public behavior.”[[{"fid":"2540","view_mode":"default","fields":{"format":"default","field_file_image_alt_text[und][0][value]":"Kids Playing","field_file_image_title_text[und][0][value]":false},"type":"media","field_deltas":{"1":{"format":"default","field_file_image_alt_text[und][0][value]":"Kids Playing","field_file_image_title_text[und][0][value]":false}},"attributes":{"alt":"Kids Playing","style":"width: 30%; border-width: 1px; border-style: solid; margin-left: 5px; margin-right: 5px; float: right;","class":"media-element file-default","data-delta":"1"}}]]

And Bev shared, “How you make parenting decisions is more important than what decision you make. We all will make thousands of decisions in regards to our children. What they will remember is if we made those decisions out of anger, convenience and selfishness or in prayer, according to scripture, from Godly counsel and for their good.”

For more free parenting advice, check out the Parenting Meeting archives at /parenting or the recommended Parenting/Family resources list at /counseling/parentingfamily